Topic: 请帮助：单身母亲在加怎样照顾孩子？万分感谢！我是个单身母亲，不忍母子分离，想把孩子一同带到加拿大，但是，碍于新环境的残酷和加国的儿童保护法律，又觉得十分没有把握。我无在加谋生的一技之长，准备是先考虑在加读书，以求谋生发展. @SF湾区华人论坛:SF湾区枫下论坛 The Rolia Forum of San Francisco

枫下沙龙 / 谈天说地 / 请帮助：单身母亲在加怎样照顾孩子？万分感谢！我是个单身母亲，不忍母子分离，想把孩子一同带到加拿大，但是，碍于新环境的残酷和加国的儿童保护法律，又觉得十分没有把握。我无在加谋生的一技之长，准备是先考虑在加读书，以求谋生发展.我无在加谋生的一技之长，准备是先考虑在加读书，以求谋生发展，请问有经验的朋友，象我这种情况能带好孩子吗，如果我有事不得不外出时她怎么办？女儿只有四岁，在加有没有寄宿类的幼儿园？她能适应加国的语言环境吗？不胜感激！ -guest:; 2001-5-9 {212} (#64687@0)

you will have a very tough time,as immmigrant, although you are entitled to apply for sunsidy for kids' daycare, it is still hard for you coz you need to study---normally daycare will be close by 5:30pm, every extra minute probably will cost you if you cannot take the kid, not mentioning the daycare spot and subsidy application needs a long wait

if you don't have a car, it is difficult esp in winter. language will not be a problem, u need to worryher Chinese. good luck

4yr old is relatively easy to get into day care. -guest:guest; 2001-5-9 {500} (#64695@0)
没什么好说的，只有一声叹息。以前说过了，一个很熟的朋友，带个小男孩，如果不是她这里的亲戚给她资助，她根本没有办法生存下去。政府给小孩的那点牛奶费，根本不够小孩的花费。你这种情况，为什么一定要出国呢？我在国外混了几年，现在最大的希望倒是回到属于自己的国家去。你自己做好了吃苦的准备，可小孩在那样的环境长大，对他公平吗？对他心智会有什么影响。这里长大的中国孩子，有一个共同的特点：缺乏自信心。这也是为什么在美国真正创业的中国人都是第一代移民，而不是从小在这里生长的。移民之路，对有些人合适，但对你，我敢说绝对不合适。 -numnum(numnum); 2001-5-9 {491} (#64706@0)

敢在别人的问题上将“绝对”2个字的人，我看还是应该多混混，世界很大，多走走多看看，你就不会讲太多的绝对了。 -guest:哈; 2001-5-9 (#65142@0)

The only part I haven't been to in the whole world is Africa.. -numnum(numnum); 2001-5-9 (#65197@0)

有些人就喜欢不懂装懂瞎教训人，理他们做甚？ -guest:; 2001-5-9 (#65202@0)
农夫连自己家的院子还没走遍，你就敢说除了africa走遍了全世界？世界大着叻，三人行必有我师。 -guest:农夫; 2001-5-9 (#65216@0)

literally, you're right.. I haven't stepped on every inch of my condo either... -numnum(numnum); 2001-5-9 (#65228@0)

Oh, My god. 看奥运会时, 那几百个国家我连名自都叫不全. 你都去过了?佩服佩服! 比环球八十一天长点吧? 你不用上班吗? 要不你高寿? -guest:; 2001-5-9 (#65242@0)

Heihei, read my post, you will see another example. I suggest your friend to study from my friend. BTW, why don't you go back China since you like it so much? :P -shou(小受); 2001-5-9 (#65154@0)

hahaha, Shou. -guest:anytang; 2001-5-9 (#65159@0)
The woman I know is in the college too, she gets 17000 a year as a student loan. -numnum(numnum); 2001-5-9 {1286} (#65186@0)

万水千山走扁，小小的Stock options算社么？我看你应该去非洲看看，在那里你也许会晤的。hehe. -guest:anytang; 2001-5-9 (#65238@0)

it is good for you to 想把孩子一同带到加拿大, but you need to settle down first. as last resort, you may apply for social benefits (fu li), years ago, single-parent with a kid can get more than $1000, now budget cuts may cause a less amount. tough -guest:guest; 2001-5-9 (#64707@0)
4岁的小孩上寄宿幼儿园有点太残酷了吧。别让孩子将来抱怨你一辈子。我有个大学同学，现在提起小时候上全托，还耿耿于怀呢。 -pingle(Do you Y!M?); 2001-5-9 (#64731@0)

谢谢各位朋友，只是心已碎，离开斯地也许是唯一选择，而女儿则是我目前唯一的勇气，不想再失去她，想尽全力给她完整的家庭的爱，不然，她留在国内只怕有更多的痛苦。 -guest:; 2001-5-9 (#64779@0)

哈哈，怎么很多事情你们一描述显得多么残酷似的，移民，生活，在正常不过的事情，何必这么悲壮啊，轻松地生活，愉快地移民，干吗啊你?性格特别特殊？还是儿女情长太重？别把正常的事情搞得跟多么了不得似的，多少单身母亲比你差远了，没必要这么自寻烦恼吧？什么心已碎。。。。好悲壮哩：） -saint(西西先生); 2001-5-9 {144} (#65313@0)
如果你到VANCOUVER，我可以帮你白天看孩子（一直到她上小学，全免费，我现在和将来都决定当HOME MAKER），尽管放心，我先生和孩子都支持。后面有我的联系方式，请查找。 -jasonlibin(jason); 2001-5-9 (#65346@0)

你这情况真的很难，赶紧找个劳工吧。 -whitetiger(whitetiger); 2001-5-9 (#64793@0)
据说单身母亲没有足够收入可以拿到$1300/月, 在BC省. 不知确切否, 或有什么条件和限制. 可以喳查这方面的政策 -dropoutinmiami(东北的饺子); 2001-5-9 (#64810@0)
我的朋友的朋友，是个单身母亲。就是因为她无一技之长，一直上学，尚且过得很好，我的朋友才决定移民，并以此为例劝我移民的。有个华裔美国人告诉我，在这里，什么都可以怕，就不怕没钱。你真的一旦穷困潦倒一文不名了，你的好日子就开始了。

我的EMAIL是 yourrollor@yahoo.ca 。把你的详细情况告诉我，我帮你问问。 -rollor(Rollor); 2001-5-9 {178} (#64821@0)
I know one single mother get $900 from government per month in Toronto. It's only afford simple life. She also got some help (toys, clothes) from some community center, even though she doesn't speak English. -cyt(cyt); 2001-5-9 (#65044@0)
Personally,just my opinion. I think living on welfare is a shame and it will have dramatic impact on a child's psych. . Of course it doesn't include those who claim EI, because they are getting what they have paid for. -numnum(numnum); 2001-5-9 (#65078@0)

well, disagree, it is NOT a shame to be on fu li... -guest:guest; 2001-5-9 {546} (#65132@0)

You are right, I may have misled people by using the word "shame".The shame I used here means the child might feel it shameful that his
family lives on the welfare. You know, in schools, chindren can be extremely cruel. So, bringing up a minority child is a very difficult job here, you have to be sure that you can handle it, otherwise, it might turn into
a tragedy of life time. -numnum(numnum); 2001-5-9 {319} (#65220@0)

yes kids are cruel, butbe confident, be assertive!!! i DO NOT see any problem in that. are you afraid of the white? why put self in a 'minority' position? in this world
who pa who? :) -guest:guest; 2001-5-9 {165} (#65298@0)

besides, it is significantly different for one to live on welfare for the rest of his/her life or just as a trasnsition phase of life. it has nothing to do with EI. -guest:guest; 2001-5-9 (#65134@0)

我身边的真人真事,单亲妈妈带一个孩子5岁,头三年上high school & college(Seneca),然后工作,现在已经是加拿大人,快6年了.她的忠告:把你孩子带过来吧!daycare is closed at 6:10pm -shou(小受); 2001-5-9 {27} (#65103@0)

What she said is:i put XXX in daycare for 3 years
and also entitled for subsidy
haha, i experienced all of those
it is fun!!
tell her it is fun!!
i miss the day when i carried XXX work 45 mins walk home
he remembers it!!
XXX was 4.5 years old when we came here -shou(小受); 2001-5-9 {258} (#65105@0)

生活不就是有点开心，有点痛苦，有点挣扎，有点希望。。我想你的女儿一定想和她母亲一起享受加拿大的清馨空气。Happy mother day! -guest:anytang; 2001-5-9 (#65150@0)

To tell you the truth, this person is the one I mentioned. You guys can't be more qualified than her to talk about it. Listen to her, ask her for suggestion! :) You're really admirable mom, anytang! -shou(小受); 2001-5-9 (#65338@0)

For kids, it is very quick to suit here's life. The key is how you think your current life. If you dislike it, just come here to canada, there are more chance than in china for you.When we came here, my daughter is 4 yrs old, at the beginning , she dislike here, even crying once in while. But after half year, she loves here. So don't think about too much about kids. they learn language and here's life just like breath air, very nature.

Good luck! -blackswan(uglyduck); 2001-5-9 {277} (#65290@0)
俺来到加拿大3个多月啦，没有工作，照样苦中取乐，笑呵呵地生活，一个养尊处优的人生好无聊啊，嘿嘿。女儿在加拿大有什么不好？比在国内接受“简述社会主义制度比资本主义的优越性"类型的教育我看要好。害怕歧视？哪儿没有歧视啊?中国没有吗？俺是乡下人，这点体会很深。 -saint(西西先生); 2001-5-9 (#65317@0)
真诚谢谢各位朋友的关心与帮助！－－单身母亲尚影。 -guest:尚影; 2001-5-10 {3171} (#66003@0)

好人呐！去吧，孩子在那里会很开心的、那里是孩子的天堂。 -ttl(羊肉泡馍); 2001-5-10 (#66009@0)
好可爱的小家伙，祝你母亲节快乐！祝你生活幸福，Enjoy 每一天！ -lumlumq(lumlum); 2001-5-10 (#66174@0)
What a cute girl! I happen to have a 5-year-old boy, Joking...Anyway, do the best expectation, and worst preparation. Feel free to contact me after you get Toronto. At least we could share my son's toys with you, but have no dolls. -cyt(cyt); 2001-5-10 {170} (#66365@0)
我认为最好的计划你自己先登陆。安定以后再回去接她 OR 让朋友带过来。
原因如下：
1 KID 不能独自在家，必须有成人照顾。否则违法。
2 KID 只有2。5小时在学校
3 你有许多事情要办。带着小孩不光你受累，小孩更受罪。
4 DAYCARE 很贵
5 找房受限制(以后小孩来，房东就无可耐和了)
6 当你不顺利的时候，会影响小孩的心理，及母女感情。

很抱歉写的很生硬。ANY HELP E_MAIL：TDU@DAPATECH.COM TEL 416 752 0160
另外，我儿子(与你女儿一样大)俩月前回了北京，准备明年回来。 -terrydu(TD); 2001-5-10 {434} (#66431@0)
好可爱的小姑娘。我都想抱抱了。你的计划可行。 -rollor(Rollor); 2001-5-10 (#66455@0)
读了尚小姐2篇文章我更断定你没有吃过什么苦，把许多人生中的小挫小折看得很了不起，我相信你是个很重感情的人，但也相信是一个很娇气的人，承担困苦的能力需要提高。 -saint(西西先生); 2001-5-10 (#66459@0)
尚影，看了你的贴子几乎使我落泪，我也是一个2个孩子的母亲（不要在乎我的名字，这是我先生的），我深深地被你的那份母爱受感动。初次来加，一定需要朋友的帮助，我在多伦多，如需要帮助请和我联系。比如：接机等 -mike2000(peter); 2001-5-13 (#69038@0)

听听我加国生活的感受 -guest:单身母亲; 2001-5-10 {3958} (#66786@0)

感动。写得真好。作为一个母亲，理解你说的一切。 -susse(逃仙); 2001-5-11 (#66866@0)
真的很感动，祝你好运！ -ttl(羊肉泡馍); 2001-5-11 (#66927@0)
正在上班,看这个贴子,同事奇怪怎么突然感冒了?很感人,也很鼓舞人,祝大家好运! -guest:剁椒蒸鱼嘴; 2001-5-11 (#67026@0)
我也是单身母亲,读了你的文章非常感动,能和你成为朋友吗 -brave(julie); 2001-5-11 (#67061@0)

能成为你的朋友，我很开心！e-mail:miche626@yahoo.ca -guest:单身母亲; 2001-5-11 (#67817@0)

写的真好!!! -luoboyang(萝卜秧); 2001-5-11 (#67244@0)
感触很深，好样的女人！！！ -saint(西西先生); 2001-5-11 (#67390@0)
nice! happy mother's day. go out have fun, make more friends.. life is pretty good. hehe. you will miss your single parent life sometimes later. -guest:anytang; 2001-5-11 (#67523@0)
感人的故事, 可敬的母亲. -rollor(Rollor); 2001-5-11 (#67555@0)
Please ask the help!I just feel sad. As a single mother, you have to
carry more pressure for living the normal life.

One thing you must keep in mind, not everyone like
the chinese girl who you described. If you ask for
help, I do believe most of Chinese will help you to
go through the hardest life.

From my personal experience, most of Chinese I
met are very nice and want to help each other.

The only thing you need is asking. Don't be
so afraid to ask. -coolguy(coolguy); 2001-5-11 {453} (#67564@0)

Thank you! You’re right. When I came to Toronto, I lost my self-confidence. I’m bearing the pressure without any confidence. So I am scared to ask for help. I willlisten to your words, but it will take time. I need time and confidence to change. Surely, most Chinese are nice. I see the hope and future of Chinese in Rolia. -guest:单身母亲; 2001-5-11 {160} (#67812@0)

take care! Happy Mother day! Try to open your heart door, make more friends, maybe you can meet another good man as your Mr. Right. He can share some burden. Take care! -guest:shanghai lady; 2001-5-11 (#67676@0)
我和你差不多，一个人带一个6岁男孩。来了快3个月。很多时候是无奈。 -guest:helen; 2001-5-11 (#67774@0)

木已成舟，船已下滩。“无奈”对目前的你来说，是你拥有的一种财富，好好珍惜它。若干年以后，当你回首往事时，，，，，， -guest:单身母亲; 2001-5-11 (#67840@0)

两天来不知该用怎样的语言来回复你的贴子。我反复读，再反复想。在反反复复中增添了更多理智，也增加了更多的勇气和希望。孩子是毕竟会长大的，我们也是毕竟会适应的，生活是会越变越好的，希望能有你的联系地址，单身母亲，我的已经在前面贴出了，想和你交个朋友，更希望可以互相携持走过人生这特殊的一章，还有Helen和Julie,让我们保持联系好吗？
你的小女儿需要什么样的礼物，我正好本月可以给她带过来。请与我联系。孩子是应该快乐的。 -guest:尚影; 2001-5-12 {295} (#68549@0)

太多的话，一时不知说什么。总之，你多保重！联系我e-mail:miche626@yahoo.ca，另外有一个朋友的孩子在daycare,是免费的，从早上8点到下午6点，好象是有条件的，我了解后，具体情况e-mail给你，你作参考。你要比我难得多，我女儿从早上9点到下午3点去上学了，你女儿4岁，你不能离开她，所以，方方面面的情况都考虑周全，我觉得james的建议很客观，实在，你考虑一下。 -guest:单身母亲; 2001-5-13 {150} (#69269@0)

你的朋友可能在享受专门针对single parent的welfare，政府可以提供全部生活费用(住房，daycare,额外医疗保险等等)。如果想专心学英语，这也不失为一条路。具体规定见网址： -hearts(hearts); 2001-5-13 (#69417@0)

Is that Michelle? Please insist, I believe you will feel better soon. People are easy to forget, when the situation change,you will forgot all those vivid pains you have ever had. Only got a story left. Call me if you have time. I've passed G2 driving test too. Talk to you later. -corel(Corel); 2001-5-12 {158} (#68574@0)

Hello, Corel. Congratulations! I’m glad to hear your good news to get G2. How are you doing recently? Thank you very much for your warm words! I'll insist. Keep in touch! Thanks again! -guest:michelle; 2001-5-13 (#69275@0)

Take care, and talk to you later. -corel(Corel); 2001-5-13 (#69404@0)

实在了不起。是你这样的人使世界变得精彩。 -congcaiwei(Jacky); 2001-5-13 (#69055@0)

hi it is my opinionhi in my opinion, I think you should not bring your child to Canada considering your specific situation, leave her in your parents's home
and then after you finish your further education in Canada, you can pick
him to come here. You know it is not very easy to find a good job here now needless to say that you have to work all days and at the same time
care about a so young child. If you want to bring your child here unless you have a lot of money to bring with you to Canada. -chengcongli(james); 2001-5-13 {484} (#69195@0)

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