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A difficult situation - Hope somebody can help. TIA! -people(Sigh); 2002-10-4 {1004} (#781208@0)
I rent a room to a lady with a child who landed as an immigrant last year. She moved in to my house in March this year. She has a Van with U.S. license plate and hasn't replaced with Ontario's license plate yet, and she continues to buy the auto insurance from the U.S. company. I told her it is not good, but she doesn't seem to listen to me. So here is my concerns:

1. I didn't ask her to provide any IDs(SIN, driver license...), should I ask her now?
2. She said her hushand went back China last year after they landed and will come back to Canada next year. At the beginning, I didn't think about it, but now I think there must be some stories behind it, I don't trust her any more.
3. Should I report her situation to somebody(you know what I mean), but I really don't want to do that because she is a Chinese although I think a good person no matter what is the nationality wouldn't do such stupid illegal thing.

Maybe I'm just jealous about this, but any help will be appreciated.

别的不用多想，起码留她一个ID的信息，不管是哪里的。driver license最好，或者她的护照号码，copy什么的。 -luoboyang(萝卜秧); 2002-10-4 (#781216@0)

Thanks very much! I'm thinking maybe I should ask her to move out? Am I too serious? -people(Sigh); 2002-10-4 (#781224@0)

看来我的英语与汉语携手共退. 你的CONCERN到底是什么啊? -mage(馅饼); 2002-10-4 (#781221@0)

Confused also............ -babyface(★RAW RAW★); 2002-10-4 {100} (#781223@0)
Saw u in subway this morning, u were so concentrated in your newpaper.......so i didn't call u. :-)

you knew him! -ningxin0809(雁影行洲); 2002-10-4 (#781237@0)

Yup. :-)) -babyface(★RAW RAW★); 2002-10-4 (#781261@0)

sorry, can you help? -people(Sigh); 2002-10-4 (#781239@0)
Really? -mage(馅饼); 2002-10-4 {154} (#781243@0)
So I wil have to keep my eyes open whenever I have evildoings, to make sure you are not the witness. :-) Seems we can meet everywhere. So amazing.........

True! 哈哈！ -babyface(★RAW RAW★); 2002-10-4 (#781258@0)

Is my English that bad ;) I just want to know what are you going to do with this kind of situation. Thanks. -people(Sigh); 2002-10-4 (#781235@0)

ask her to move out -ningxin0809(雁影行洲); 2002-10-4 (#781241@0)

my thought -mssg(mssg); 2002-10-4 {645} (#781251@0)
1. Did she pay the rent on time, and every time? is she a good tenent? If not, you can ask her to leave, end of story.

2. Did she have a credit card, any bills comes to your house regularily and seem get paid? if so, she is perfectly credible to me.

3. It's quite normal people don't change US license plate, illegal? Yes, but why do you care, you don't have to report to authority any kind.

4. Maybe she didn't tell you the truth of her life, why you should bother to know all of it?

5. Get her ID is a good idea if that eases your nerve, but really doesn't mean anything at all.

6. Take it easy, nothing to worry about.

Like many other ppl here, i always like to read your thoughts.:-) -babyface(★RAW RAW★); 2002-10-4 (#781262@0)

me2. He also help me to fight some bad guys here, thanks that strange mssg who never type Chinese here, maybe he is not from China. -pyramid(㊣金字塔); 2002-10-4 (#781965@0)

thanks for your suggestions, i just don't want to get into any trouble. and I don't think money is the only thing to be considered as credit. -people(Sigh); 2002-10-4 {163} (#781298@0)
I don't know if you know the rule, but you can check here <a href="http://www.riv.ca/english/html/how_to_import.html">RIV</a> if you think it is not a big deal.

more -mssg(mssg); 2002-10-4 {517} (#781328@0)
1. Let's say she lied to officer when crossing the border, and doesn't want to spend any money to get it imported. plus insurance is cheap if bought from US. Does that mean she is a bad person that would do any harm to you in the future?

2. In your situation, she doesn't bother you anything except the vehicle plate, and you are thinking of asking her to leave in Oct. I am not sure who is the one more damaging.

3. If she is a good tenant in your house, don't thouble trouble until trouble
troubles you.

you are jealous this time -people(Sigh); 2002-10-4 {210} (#781349@0)
1. at least not a good person
2. I haven't asked her to move out yet, and I'll give hre at least one month in advence even if I ask her to move out
3. you mean I am the one who is making the trouble? Saint?

final -mssg(mssg); 2002-10-4 {188} (#781365@0)
Considerate, be helpful to each other, not to be critical at higher moral ground.

You want a good tenant in the house, I said IF she is, you don't want to risk getting a bad one later.

seems like you are more jealous than me about this situation -people(Sigh); 2002-10-4 {187} (#781397@0)
the reason why i post this message in Rolia is i want to know what most Chinese people think about it. i don't want to do anything to hurt her, but you put me in the risk. thanks again.

庸人自扰之。。 -babyface(★RAW RAW★); 2002-10-4 (#781402@0)
what's the meaning of "jealous" here? I'm more and more confused when i see you using this word here repeatedly. -labelle(freefire); 2002-10-4 (#781502@0)

you are nice person -hunt(hunt); 2002-10-4 (#781693@0)

Why are you jealous? Your concern should be as a landlord, whether you should check the tenants's leagal ID. As whether the tenant has avalid auto insurance is not your responsibility. . -ingridchao(Ingrid); 2002-10-4 {95} (#781253@0)
If you doubt the reliability of your tenant, it's your call to terminate the renting contract.

thanks, i think you are right. I know it is not my business, but I just don't understand why people are doing such thing. It's kind of like you are making joke of yourself. -people(Sigh); 2002-10-4 (#781311@0)

I really can't understand you. you are going to report to authority just because she did switch the vehicle plate?? it is none of your businesss. -mafan(麻烦); 2002-10-4 (#781326@0)

I said I'm not. and I don't think it is wrong even if I did. -people(Sigh); 2002-10-4 (#781351@0)

Man, I am soo sorry FOR you. you really need some kind of treatment. hopefully you will be better soon. good luck. -mafan(麻烦); 2002-10-4 (#781409@0)

coz' canada's auto insurance is way too expensive. that's so simple. -speed(如风); 2002-10-4 (#781329@0)

but you should know it before you immigrate to Canada, and why she immigrated to Canada? -people(Sigh); 2002-10-4 (#781363@0)

Oh Please. IT'S NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS. -mafan(麻烦); 2002-10-4 (#781376@0)
so what? does her activity affect your life or anybody's life? i guess not. it's not such a big deal. what she is doing is not that legistimate, but why do you care about it so much? -speed(如风); 2002-10-4 (#781450@0)

story is end. thanks for evebody's help. After I talked to one of my colleague, i know why the situation of Chinese immigrants is very hard in Canada. -people(Sigh); 2002-10-4 {199} (#781474@0)
1. I'm not going to do anything to hurt her(let her hurts herself)
2. I'll give her at least one month in advance to move out
3. I'm very sorry about her and her Chinese friends
4. Sigh, people

Who cares? -lmx(流氓兔); 2002-10-4 (#781495@0)

Are you Chinese? Of course you don't care. It's none of your business, right? -people(Sigh); 2002-10-4 (#781515@0)

First check out if your colleague is jealous. -mssg(mssg); 2002-10-4 (#781522@0)

not more than you, and second? -people(Sigh); 2002-10-4 (#781527@0)
you're cool, man. -labelle(freefire); 2002-10-4 (#781531@0)
did i tell you what is my colleague's opinion? i think you are so jealous now. I said the story is over already. -people(Sigh); 2002-10-4 (#781544@0)

If I were you, I will calm down first before making any decision. -mssg(mssg); 2002-10-4 (#781611@0)

thanks for you advice. do you know she is taking a big risk? -people(Sigh); 2002-10-4 {251} (#781628@0)
I'll ask her to move out because she doesn't listen to me and insists making mistakes. She has her choice, I have mine too. Is that simple?

btw, if you think this is going to hurt her, then anything could hurt her, especially her auto insurance.

别人对你提出的疑问诚心解答，你却倒过来说别人Jealous，正如 #781402 一般，你既然抱着这种态度，那你采取什么行动当然是 who cares。这当然不是我的business，也不是任何人的business，可你把它贴出来问别人干嘛？ -lmx(流氓兔); 2002-10-4 (#781528@0)

please don't say anything if you really don't care -people(Sigh); 2002-10-4 (#781533@0)

就想着逗你玩，看着你生气抓狂俺觉着有意思。 -lmx(流氓兔); 2002-10-4 (#781540@0)

Chinese again? -people(Sigh); 2002-10-4 (#781549@0)

Please tell us why, give us a chance to improve, As a Chinese, you are willing to help, aren't you? -mssg(mssg); 2002-10-4 (#781496@0)

no reason. is it okay? I don't think you need my help because people don't care. -people(Sigh); 2002-10-4 (#781523@0)

Again -mssg(mssg); 2002-10-4 {287} (#781547@0)
1. You have a really good name, think about people other than you.

2. Since you know why Chinese is hard in Canada, please care about us no matter what others said or did. and don't make life of your fellow Chinese even harder.

3. People are sighing.

4. Be a reasonable person,
"DON"T CARE" 不是麻木不仁的各人自扫门前雪, 而是少JUDGMENT, 多尊重别人的隐私和生活方式. 管的太宽和展示社会责任感的界限并不明确,全靠个人自己掌握. -ingridchao(Ingrid); 2002-10-4 (#781723@0)

I guess you couldn't distinguish them either. I don't want to argue with you here. I just want to what are you going to do with this situation. If you think it is fine, not a big deal, that's also fine for me. -people(Sigh); 2002-10-4 (#781749@0)

YOU MAKE ME SICK. -mafan(麻烦); 2002-10-4 (#781538@0)

yes, you are sick -people(Sigh); 2002-10-4 (#781548@0)

People??? being a people like YOU is a pity. Soooo Sorry FOR YOU.---"People" -mafan(麻烦); 2002-10-4 (#781553@0)

so you think you are not people? do you know she is taking a big risk? I'll ask her to move out because she doesn't listen to me and insists making mistakes. She has her choice, I have mine too. -people(Sigh); 2002-10-4 (#781577@0)

Why do you want to drive them out? They pay you rent, that is OK. -hunt(hunt); 2002-10-4 (#781690@0)

Because I don't what to say if somebody ask me about it. She got 3 letters from goverment this week. one is from Transport Canada, one is from Environment department, and one is from Canada Customs and Revenue Agency. -people(Sigh); 2002-10-4 {151} (#781851@0)
I know I could lie and say I know nothing, but would it hurt me?

See, I'm selfish too.

And I think I have the right to rent or not rent my room.

thoughts after thoughts(Summary, please don't follow): -people(Sigh); 2002-10-4 {559} (#781836@0)
First of all, thanks for everybody's kind of words. Second, I'm a little bit upset because it seems like everybody in Rolia blames on me except my jealous colleague, nobody even blames on her! Maybe I am wrong... so here is my plan B:

1. Let her take the Risk, it is none of my business

2. Don't tell anybody(you know what I mean) about it, and if somebody(you know what I mean) ask about it, I'll say I don't know nothing.

3. Let her stay as long as she wants

4. Check to see what is wrong with me

So, everybody is happy? Okay, we done.

not done yet -mssg(mssg); 2002-10-4 {845} (#781857@0)
1. Let her take the Risk, it is none of my business

She is an adult who is taking care of a child by her own, of course knows what the risk is, it's very kind of you to tell her you are concerned if insurance refuses coverage in case of accident.

2. Don't tell anybody(you know what I mean) about it, and if somebody(you know what I mean) ask about it, I'll say I don't know nothing.

You are not covering a crime here, don't need to be afraid. even asked by police or other kinds of authority, you tell the truth "I was concerned, and made suggestion several times", you won't be punished because you didn't report.

3. Let her stay as long as she wants

As long as she is a good tenant in your own standard, why not?

4. Check to see what is wrong with me

Nothing wrong, you are concerned, a little afraid maybe.

Agree with you. -mafan(麻烦); 2002-10-4 (#781878@0)
are we done now? -people(Sigh); 2002-10-4 {196} (#781884@0)
1. I did twice already(I think I told you that more than twice)

2. I believe you, but who believes me?

3. I don't want to rent to anybody any more, can I?

4. Thanks for understanding me.

I can fully understand your concern, glad to see you made right decision. I own you an apology about the rude message. sorry buddy. -mafan(麻烦); 2002-10-4 (#781887@0)

don't mention it -people(Sigh); 2002-10-4 {93} (#781902@0)
not a big deal, I just don't think it is worth to do such thing. Too risk, don't you think?

@San Francisco

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