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不完全是文化差异。 小孙女不喜欢外公外婆

guest:Clarkia
本文发表在 rolia.net 枫下论坛Obviously the little girl does not like her grandparents. Because the geographic distance between the little girl and her grandparents, the grandparents have little impact in her life. To her, they are strangers speaking different language. They come to visit her parents, not her. No wonder she thinks that they should stay in hotel. The mother should explain to her beforehand that her grandparents are coming and will stay with them. Her mother should also explain to her that grandparents are family members and tell her more about how they raised her mother. Show her pictures, teach her some simple greetings in Chinese. Let her accept them as part of her family. This is such a sad fact. The only thing we can do is to create more opportunities for the grandparents to be there while the child grows.

Even in the Western country, if family members are close, usually the visiting members will not stay in hotel unless they want to. I know a couple with three grown-up children. All their children are married and have two or three kids. Christmas is a family gathering time, all kids bring their sleeping bags with them while they visit their grandparents. The accommdation is that all kids "camp" in the family room or living room.更多精彩文章及讨论，请光临枫下论坛 rolia.net
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  • 枫下沙龙 / 谈天说地 / 今天听到一句特精辟的话... -ingrid(樱桃); 2001-5-15 {335} (#71577@0)
    今天和一位女士聊起在她在国外长大的孩子会说中文的问题. 这位女士说了一句特精辟的话" 我的孩子当然要会说中文啦. 你有没有见过一个加拿大人不会说英文的呀?"
    有时候我们往往为了弥补自己不能融入外国人社会的遗憾, 而让孩子全面的西化, 却不知道这样的同时, 也失去了我们中国人最传统的东西...
    此故事献给带着孩子在国外和即将要在国外生孩子的各位共勉.
    • 同意同意，但是， -lumlumq(lumlum); 2001-5-15 {152} (#71581@0)
      想到另一件事，

      加拿大是移民国家，很难定义加拿大人。若在加拿大出生的外国人在非英语环境中长大，英语讲不好是很正常的。

      只是突发奇想啦～～～～～～～～
    • 等小EGG满月，咱们就从《四库全书》教起 -bxy(西岭); 2001-5-15 (#71585@0)
      • 先从《文渊阁记》开背
        -bxy(西岭); 2001-5-15 (#71587@0)
    • 本来就该如此嘛，难道要我用英文跟孩子交流？ -agincourt(百灵鸟); 2001-5-15 (#71605@0)
      • 我家亲戚就用英文和他女儿交流. 小女孩5岁从小在这里出生长大, 他们让她接受全西化的教育,所以现在一句中文都不会说. 而且她从来不认为自己是中国人. 每次看见她, 我都只能在心里叹气... -ingrid(樱桃); 2001-5-15 (#71612@0)
        • 是啊，中国人不承认自己是中国人，那是一种什么样的悲哀啊！他们也一定很困惑，根在哪里？ -lumlumq(lumlum); 2001-5-15 (#71617@0)
        • 反正我是不会赶这种时髦，中国人就要说中国话！！！！！！ -lumlumq(lumlum); 2001-5-15 (#71618@0)
          • 同意!!可是你不是今晚戒网了吗? -ingrid(樱桃); 2001-5-15 (#71620@0)
            • ^_^_^_^_^_, 谢谢樱桃JJ 的监督，饭要糊啦～～～～～～～～～ -lumlumq(lumlum); 2001-5-15 (#71627@0)
        • 别叹气，她的确不是中国人。即无中国国籍，也懂不了多少中国文化(语言)。最多种族上是华人(CHINESE)。北美洲长大的孩子，没有学中国文化(语言)的动力和环境。 -dilbert(UCD); 2001-5-15 (#71624@0)
      • 最好孩子在中国接受教育至初中毕业，再来北美洲继续学习，这样中文不丢。 -seilings(kindofbug); 2001-5-15 (#71631@0)
    • 记得很久以前在国内看过一个纪录片, -mei(mxmf); 2001-5-15 {348} (#71633@0)
      一个美籍华人讲她的小孩子,当她的父母由国内去美国探亲,住在她家里时,她的小孩对她说:"为什么外公,外婆要住在我们家,我的同学们都没有和外公,外婆同住,他们会笑话我."她问她的小孩子:"那他们该住在哪里?",小孩说:"他们可以去住hotel."
      ....
      我们总是说要融入主流社会,可是如果有一天,我们的儿女真的用西方的眼光去看待一切的时候,不知道我们感到的是欣慰,还是无奈.
      • 什么是“主流社会“？加拿大和美国除了印第安人是真正的主人外，不都是从别的地方移民来的。200年左右的历史，未来还有很多可以改变的。我们就是这个过程的一部分。 -diao_david(LoveBeer); 2001-5-16 (#71915@0)
        • No! Vikings (Scandinavian) came here 500 years ago. -mrviceroy(杀人者Daniel是也); 2001-5-16 (#72346@0)
      • 不完全是文化差异。 小孙女不喜欢外公外婆 -guest:Clarkia; 2001-5-16 {1245} (#72313@0)
        本文发表在 rolia.net 枫下论坛Obviously the little girl does not like her grandparents. Because the geographic distance between the little girl and her grandparents, the grandparents have little impact in her life. To her, they are strangers speaking different language. They come to visit her parents, not her. No wonder she thinks that they should stay in hotel. The mother should explain to her beforehand that her grandparents are coming and will stay with them. Her mother should also explain to her that grandparents are family members and tell her more about how they raised her mother. Show her pictures, teach her some simple greetings in Chinese. Let her accept them as part of her family. This is such a sad fact. The only thing we can do is to create more opportunities for the grandparents to be there while the child grows.

        Even in the Western country, if family members are close, usually the visiting members will not stay in hotel unless they want to. I know a couple with three grown-up children. All their children are married and have two or three kids. Christmas is a family gathering time, all kids bring their sleeping bags with them while they visit their grandparents. The accommdation is that all kids "camp" in the family room or living room.更多精彩文章及讨论，请光临枫下论坛 rolia.net
    • 女士的逻辑，实在是难让俺理解。 -hearts(hearts); 2001-5-15 (#71656@0)
    • 不懂中文固然遗憾，但如果英文不好则是灾难。--忘了是谁说的了。 -augst25(augst25); 2001-5-16 (#71894@0)
      • 我。 -rollor(Rollor); 2001-5-16 (#72333@0)

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