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其实,爱情这个东西,本身就不是东西。

感情确实不等于爱情,但感情未尝不可以替代爱情。这时现实主义的观点。

自由和爱情,我要的就是这两样。如果不能够得到,生命也可以不要。这是浪漫主义的情怀。

你觉得他对你不好,有两种可能,一种是他不好,一种是你觉得。无论那种,总之都不好。

我倾向于建议你更加现实一些。(尽管绝大多数女孩子都是浪漫的。)从你自身的角度出发,如果:离开他之后,你有把握找到更好的归宿,那就大胆往前走。

否则,考虑其他选择。注意:别抱太多希望想改变他,那几乎是不可能的,除非你能守先改变了自己。

还要注意,不要总问自己什么是爱情。能够说出来的爱情不是人们常说的爱情。如果和他在一起,能获得别处得不到的温馨和幸福,这可能就是爱情。否则的话,分开也罢。
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  • 枫下佳缘 / 情爱悠悠 / 如果在结婚之前还不知道自己的决定是不是对的,是不是就不应该结婚
    • 没错
    • 凭着感觉走吧。如果必须屈服于压力,哪也没办法。
      如果没感觉到真爱,那就不要结婚。
      可不结婚又不行,那就只好结婚。

      其实好多时候,结婚不是你一个人决定得了的,因为你不应该强迫另一方,或者你不能阻止另一方强迫你。

      着实有一些朋友因婚姻或男女问题向我咨询,我给他们提供所有可行的上、中、下方案,告诉他们各种利弊。最后,他们往往还按自己最初的想法去做。

      为色所困,恨爱交加,除了自己,谁人能解?
      • 为什么我总是觉得他对我不好,是我太挑剔还是。。。7年的感情现在象是鸡肋
        • 什么叫真爱,感情是有,只是不知道是不是爱情
          • 其实,爱情这个东西,本身就不是东西。
            感情确实不等于爱情,但感情未尝不可以替代爱情。这时现实主义的观点。

            自由和爱情,我要的就是这两样。如果不能够得到,生命也可以不要。这是浪漫主义的情怀。

            你觉得他对你不好,有两种可能,一种是他不好,一种是你觉得。无论那种,总之都不好。

            我倾向于建议你更加现实一些。(尽管绝大多数女孩子都是浪漫的。)从你自身的角度出发,如果:离开他之后,你有把握找到更好的归宿,那就大胆往前走。

            否则,考虑其他选择。注意:别抱太多希望想改变他,那几乎是不可能的,除非你能守先改变了自己。

            还要注意,不要总问自己什么是爱情。能够说出来的爱情不是人们常说的爱情。如果和他在一起,能获得别处得不到的温馨和幸福,这可能就是爱情。否则的话,分开也罢。
            • "如果和他在一起,能获得别处得不到的温馨和幸福,这可能就是爱情。"
              • If you worry about him when u r not sure where he is; If any joke he tells u can make you laugh; If you want to cook what he loves to eat; If you want to hold him while you are sleeping; If......
              • so experienced *_~
            • 哈 哈 , 说 得 好
            • Remind me an interesting saying: " Sex and money have one thing in common... When you need it, you don't have it. When you have it, you don't need it ..."
        • don't be sooooo picky
    • Simple observation
      本文发表在 rolia.net 枫下论坛My contribution to the discussion is the simple observation that the search for relationships is really like buying shoes. I don't claim to be an expert in relationships, but I think anyone can offer some sound advice in regards to shoes.

      When shopping for new shoes you need to know there are a lot of shoes out there. I mean a lot. Literally billions. They come in all different colours, characteristics and style. Some are big, others are small, some are empty feeling, while others feel more substantial. If we don't know what we want specifically, we could literally spend our entire lives just trying on different pairs and never be satisfied with one. Of course, each individuals needs and tastes are different but ultimately, we are all looking for the same thing: something that looks decent, but more importantly, feels comfortable.

      Sometimes looks are deceiving. Any girl will tell you that some of the most prettiest shoes are often the ones that are the LEAST comfortable. At the end of the day, if your shoes aren't comfortable, it doesn't matter how pretty they look...you just won't last. Sometimes you pick a shoe that looks right, but when you lace them up and walk around, you notice they pinch in the heel or in the toe. It is important to try on different pairs to ensure you get the best shoe that suits you. Are there such things as "sole"-mates? Well sure! I believe in it. Some people are lucky enough to have shoes that have been custom-fitted, and I'm quite sure they are really happy people. But the majority of people can also be very happy with shoes that are not a custom-fit. We need to remember that many shoes require an initial break-in period. Over time all shoes will stretch (in varying degrees) and will eventually give you a really comfortable fit. During this first period, it is common for blisters and calluses to form. However, given some time and attention these things can heal. But you better make sure this actually happens before the free return period ends,if you still don't feel comfortable by that day,return it.

      In order for your shoes to last a long time, you need to do some occasional maintenance (clean, buff and polish). Of course, the maintenance requirements vary from shoe to shoe. For example, you need to be more careful with some shoes (like suede) while you can be more carefree with others (like sneakers). Occasional maintenance does cost some money, but is cheaper than to repair your shoes from damages due to years of neglect...

      Good luck finding shoes...and whatever adaventures you have in store.更多精彩文章及讨论,请光临枫下论坛 rolia.net
      • I like your postings very much
      • 绝妙的比喻。非常喜欢。只是有一点:试过鞋之后,脚还是脚。试过人之后,你还是原来的你吗?
        一对夫妇经常因家庭琐事吵架,最后,女人要与男人离婚,男人说:“我是最适合你的人,如果你跟我过不下去,跟谁也过不下去。”

        女人说:“我知道,是我这个人不好。离婚后,不会再嫁人了。”
        • “这个女人不寻常……“ -- 选自 《杀价帮》
          • 哈哈, David, 您老是刁德一的后代吧.
            • "要说是亲眷却不相认“ 咱改《红灯记》行了吧
              • 哈,你爹爹和奶奶别齐声唤亲人就好了。
                • "亲人呐,我青红不分,皂白不辨……“ 李勇奇《林海雪原〉
        • HeHeHe! I don't know, I just back to the store again, you probably have shoes already, is your feet fit them well?
    • Love is doing simple things together....
      This is what I got from my ex-landlord, which is really true.

      I think, real and lasting love is from the ordinary life after living together, no matter you get married, or in common law. To persist the beauty of love is far more difficult than just falling into love. Freshness is so short. Then you have to try to melt yourself with the other part. To understand, trust and bear. You know, it's so easy to get bored of each other....

      Actually I am learning. Try to make it out....
      • you will, for sure.
    • of course, no matter what kind of things you do, you should think about it thorouly.
      • 可以得出结论:还是实际点吧,天下乌鸦一般黑,也许嫁了另一个又会觉得还是这个好,如果没有什么让你觉得难以接受的缺点还是。。。
    • It's like changing lane in a tight traffic. What you can do is to close your eyes and just do it.
      • 难怪你老换错线呢,现在明白拉,,,
        • oh, yes.
    • 也未必,如果你是大智若愚型,说不定越想不清楚越幸福
    • 真正的爱情是可遇而不可求的。
      • 我觉得爱情也许是不存在的,至少我没见过爱情,婚姻的维系靠的是感情,不是爱情。爱情是不会长久的。
        • Absolutely!
        • 象你这样没见过爱情的人多了去了.
    • 曾读过这样一句话:Don't marry the person who you can live with. Marry the person who you can't live without. 我深以为是。如果你不能确定你的感情,千万别结婚。否则将来你会后悔的。
      • Oh Boy, I guess I will marry to my bed then. I can't live without my bed.
        • 喷饭喷饭,太搞笑拉,,,,
    • Seperate for a while, think all the bad things he has...
      some thoughts, perhaps more confusing , sorry for that.

      If you can't help to think his good things, you probably have no choice.

      Since 7 years is a long time, you must feel bored. But I am sure, if you leave him now, you 100% percent will be missing him in the furture.

      Finally, there is no miracle under the sky.
    • 是的!连自己走进去会不会幸福都不知道结什么婚!!!笨!!!
      • 结婚是人生最大的赌博,你能预见你的将来吗?
    • 结婚时应该没有疑问了。如果有疑问,而且你有选择,别匆忙,给自己时间。如果没有选择,被人家逼上门来了,自己掂量吧。