"To me...real life is an alignment between life and destiny. Any split between them creates unhappiness and lacks of fulfillment." Now plz ask your heart and tell me the truth if you'd like:

fragilidad(F.in hibernation)

have you ever feel painful when you faced the stuff (like career, kids, etc.)you've given up (or going to give up)?

I do believe you never regret your choice to give up and are satisfied with what you got. But...it's still painful, at least sometimes, eh?

Don't tell me it never happened to you, I don't and won't never believe it since we're all human beings.

Please don't put yourself at a high-end place. Everybody has their own life. I respect the ppl who has an extraordinary life, however, I repect those who live in an ordinary life more since it's probably harder than I could imagine.

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Last Updated: 2004-1-4

写的好! 饺子的文章总是让我有共鸣的感觉. ^_^ 我以前也总对别人说我喜欢旅游, 我现在才发现我总是懒得出门. -esther_r(Esther); 2004-1-4 (#1544857@0)

现在就指定计划，重游土狼多；） -ningxin0809(雁影行洲); 2004-1-4 (#1544861@0)

a good plan! :P -dropoutinmiami(饺子-随波逐流2004年); 2004-1-4 (#1544876@0)

边看你的文章我就在想, 是不是爱情也是一样呢? 人们总是憧憬爱情, 但是当爱情来的时候就害怕而不敢承担了呢? :-) -esther_r(Esther); 2004-1-4 (#1544862@0)

hehe, right. -jade(简单生活); 2004-1-4 (#1544869@0)
我想不管你想要什么，最终的实现都要靠行动。出门和恋爱都一样吧：） -dropoutinmiami(饺子-随波逐流2004年); 2004-1-4 (#1544877@0)

还是不一样滴. :-) 我可以改变出门计划但是我改变不了爱情. 爱情说走就走. 我可以生活得很reality, 爱情和reality却总是打架. :-) -esther_r(Esther); 2004-1-4 (#1544975@0)
不写了. 我自己已经搞不清楚自己在说什么了. :-( -esther_r(Esther); 2004-1-4 (#1545023@0)

good. Thanks. -jade(简单生活); 2004-1-4 (#1544866@0)

好,越来越FEMININITY乐:)//这篇没有"SO":P -redbird(好梦随风飘万里); 2004-1-4 (#1544884@0)

so是黔驴技穷后的无可奈何的最后一招:P -dropoutinmiami(饺子-随波逐流2004年); 2004-1-4 (#1544922@0)

So your goal had been to travel to places you dreamed about. Now that the most part of it has been "actualized". What's next? The goal is to find a new goal? :) How'bout settle down and start to contribute again? -ztech(安平夜); 2004-1-4 {135} (#1544913@0)

Live a normal family life and grow some new human beings is one way to do it. And to do well is harder than anyone would have expected.

You -jade(简单生活); 2004-1-4 {26} (#1544920@0)
asked what I want to say:)
I agree with you. That is even harder to raise kids and do well...but if I cannot have both, I choose the one I am doing. :-) -dropoutinmiami(饺子-随波逐流2004年); 2004-1-4 (#1544944@0)

要得到，首先要失去 -game_over(DDR之一头肥猪 =_=b); 2004-1-4 (#1544954@0)

Being on the road is just a very specific goal. Following my heart is the ultimate goal I want to achieve. What after? I don't know yet, but I will know when the time comes. -dropoutinmiami(饺子-随波逐流2004年); 2004-1-4 {100} (#1544957@0)
不要误解，我的意思不是否定其他生活方式。只是想说，我们应该把理想和现实结合起来，至少致力于结合起来。

饺子已经totally西化了. :-) -esther_r(Esther); 2004-1-4 (#1544960@0)

这叫西化？：） -dropoutinmiami(饺子-随波逐流2004年); 2004-1-4 (#1544965@0)

崇尚个人理想, 严重小资. :-) -esther_r(Esther); 2004-1-4 (#1544978@0)

哦，又学一观点：） -dropoutinmiami(饺子-随波逐流2004年); 2004-1-4 (#1544999@0)

Kidding. :-) -esther_r(Esther); 2004-1-4 (#1545026@0)

百忙中静心读了这一篇，很具体，也是你对现实和理想的进一步认识，原来我曾写过“人与神的对话”和“无路之路”，本打算过几天贴，现在你已全合成一篇了，还写的更顺！ -lubx(黑白世界*风云再起); 2004-1-4 (#1544918@0)

现在就贴吧：） -dropoutinmiami(饺子-随波逐流2004年); 2004-1-4 (#1545000@0)

4242～心动不如行动 -game_over(DDR之一头肥猪 =_=b); 2004-1-4 {14} (#1545052@0)
梦想不如现实？
:). 两篇还是E稿的大纲，转成可以见人的版再贴，不过你的回答已很圆满：“Following my heart” 是“人与神的对话”篇，而 “ What after? I don't know yet, but I will know when the time comes” 是“无路之路“篇。真佩服你的灵气 -lubx(黑白世界*风云再起); 2004-1-4 (#1545071@0)

等你的贴子喽：） -dropoutinmiami(饺子-随波逐流2004年); 2004-1-5 (#1546547@0)

一定尽力克服最后关头移清别恋的毛病，坚持写完 -lubx(黑白世界*风云再起); 2004-1-5 (#1546650@0)

第一次真心希望能永生... -game_over(DDR之一头肥猪 =_=b); 2004-1-4 (#1544935@0)

有一个法子．．．去ＰＯＬＡＮＤ半夜逛．．． -ztech(安平夜); 2004-1-4 (#1545105@0)

？？？ -game_over(DDR之一头肥猪 =_=b); 2004-1-4 (#1545159@0)

据说那里是繁派尔的母地． -ztech(安平夜); 2004-1-4 (#1545200@0)

那怎么叫永生啊。。。 -game_over(DDR之一头肥猪 =_=b); 2004-1-4 (#1545204@0)

immortal=??? -ztech(安平夜); 2004-1-4 (#1545215@0)

那至少 -game_over(DDR之一头肥猪 =_=b); 2004-1-4 {68} (#1545230@0)
不是被人家钉个十字架，洒点圣水，又或是银制器具可以伤害甚至杀死的吧？

这不是捷径嘛．．． -ztech(安平夜); 2004-1-4 (#1545232@0)

"To me...real life is an alignment between life and destiny. Any split between them creates unhappiness and lacks of fulfillment." Now plz ask your heart and tell me the truth if you'd like: -fragilidad(F.in hibernation); 2004-1-4 {612} (#1545178@0)

I have been struggling for over 30 years...until recently I made peace with myself... -dropoutinmiami(饺子-随波逐流2004年); 2004-1-4 {741} (#1545648@0)
Also I am not giving up my career, I will still rely on it to support myself when the day comes.

In terms of kids...I have given lots of thoughs to it, and I don't regret.

I am here to share my thoughts and experience...not putting myself at "a high-end place". I respect everybody's choice of life. The message I tried to convey was to those people who were not happy with their life, who had dreams and felt frustrated with the split between dreams and reality. Because I have been struggling, I thought I might have something to share with those people.

I admire those people who have courage to live their dream too. It is they who have inspired me to follow my heart. Seemingly you are happy with your life. That is great!

O I C. After being struggling for over 30 years, you are ABOVE human being now. Good for you! -fragilidad(F.in hibernation); 2004-1-4 (#1545720@0)

whatever as long as you are happy. Thanks for reading my post. Now I know who you are. -dropoutinmiami(饺子-随波逐流2004年); 2004-1-4 (#1545766@0)
好啦,难得RR今天早退,这个稀泥俺来和:把#1545720里两个YOU第一个改为WE,第二个改为US.都好了哈,哈哈. -redbird(好梦随风飘万里); 2004-1-4 (#1545910@0)

她早退的确是一大新闻。。。 -game_over(屡败屡D，屡D屡败); 2004-1-4 {12} (#1545921@0)
大家
和为贵

I am happy that you made peace with yourself. Also, I hope you have a peace with yourself for your whole life. -goingout(freshair); 2004-1-4 {211} (#1545891@0)
make a peace with yourself is unique with "心境". we also may be effected and changed in different work, life environments. peace is a stand point and "心境" is balance of different work, life environments.

Very true. :-) -dropoutinmiami(饺子-随波逐流2004年); 2004-1-6 (#1548154@0)

有时梦想是人类生存的希望, 真正的完美世界是不存在的, 你无法实现你的每一个梦想. 我觉得梦想和现实不是对立关系, 人类的幸福就是在不断地追求梦想中得以存在, 尽管有时明知这个梦想是不可求的. -noproblem(大可以); 2004-1-4 {211} (#1545374@0)

我同意你的观点, Let's do it. 很多人就这么做了, 但生活中有些事情往往是做了而不成功, 我觉得Let's pursue it更合适, 我们不仅需要做, 还要有做不成的心理准备. 但是不论怎样结果, pursue your dream 才能实现你的人生价值.

嗯，同意你的说法。不过我已经不以成败论我的选择和梦想，但学会了be realistic....and instead of wanting something beyond my reach, I treasure what I have. 共勉！：） -dropoutinmiami(饺子-随波逐流2004年); 2004-1-4 (#1545664@0)

“ I have been struggling for over 30 years...until recently I made peace with myself...”，这已是很难得的了，很多人，包括很多杰出的人，要花去一生来柔和这些分裂（们）， -lubx(黑白世界*风云再起); 2004-1-4 {110} (#1546019@0)

多数人还不成功，你多少已是幸运儿。任凭若水三千，你已可随取一瓢饮。一滴水喝下去，原来是历经多少江河！（我拙言）

For me to live like you is really thrilling thing. I was very brave before (having a lot of adventure), but I changed as tender after I set up family. So far family is beyond all of my dreams, and it is worthy. -annayin(过节了); 2004-1-5 (#1546954@0)

Yeah...people have different dreams at different stage of their life. I remember my dream before I came to Canada was to have a house with a swimming pool and a swing...May everybody's dreams come true!:-) -dropoutinmiami(饺子-随波逐流2004年); 2004-1-5 (#1547090@0)

Thank you for so nice replying. And I like your characters as a mature beautiful rosewood smiling. Happiness live in your heart. -annayin(过节了); 2004-1-6 (#1547958@0)

Thanks, I like your poems too. They are easy to read and very sweet.:-) -dropoutinmiami(饺子-随波逐流2004年); 2004-1-6 (#1548157@0)

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"To me...real life is an alignment between life and destiny. Any split between them creates unhappiness and lacks of fulfillment." Now plz ask your heart and tell me the truth if you'd like:

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