谢谢飘扬，我的money sense 超级好～
-ltndsy(Joanna);
2017-2-17(#10615306@0)+1
When we got married, one side of the parents did exactly the same. The "bad" effect was long lasting. Everytime we argue, this topic was brought up. It has been a strain on our relationship... big time... my advice is ... don't do it...
-jeffrey815(Smartiecat);
2017-2-17(#10615313@0)+1
what is wrong with it ?why did you both appreciate the parents?
-ltndsy(Joanna);
2017-2-17(#10615326@0)+1
A young couple will argue. When they argue, they will say things. When the house is paid by one side of the parent, they will say things like, this is my house, blah blah blah...
-jeffrey815(Smartiecat);
2017-2-17(#10615347@0)
Two year into our marriage, we took out a mortgage and repay the parents, with full interest...So we do not need to have this sort of argument anymore... ie. don't interfere with my marriage!
-jeffrey815(Smartiecat);
2017-2-17(#10615367@0)
It is our way to refuse their helps. We could have taken out that mortgage since the beginning. That is why we paid the parents with interest. Seriously it left such a bitter taste in the relationship and the relationship with the inlaws. It was a lose lose arrangement.
We took out a mortgage to repay the parents. We did not have $. I'm just telling you what your kid (and his/her other half) might think.
-jeffrey815(Smartiecat);
2017-2-17(#10615396@0)
Inlaw is like Joanna.
-jeffrey815(Smartiecat);
2017-2-17{274}(#10615416@0)
we will help you. we don't even want you to repay the $. But we will put a condition just like Joanna. Their son/daughter doesn't care cause it is their parents. Exactly like what Joanna said too... His/her kids might request it. But it might put a strain on the other half.
but if the inlaws "don't even want you to repay the $." ... why would that put a strain on the relationship? Unless there is a hidden agenda, otherwise it means what it means and you don't have to repay the $.
-kakaka(小胖子);
2017-2-17(#10615425@0)+3
exactly. when we argue, your other half always say this is my house. when you buy gifts, you always buy much more expensive gifts for the parents who gave the $, etc. The whole relationship becomes money centric.
-jeffrey815(Smartiecat);
2017-2-17(#10615635@0)
I agree. Then your daughter/son-in-law should have ultimate veto power on whether s/he is willing to borrow from you, and whether s/he wants to sign such agreement. You cannot just impose this on them.
-jeffrey815(Smartiecat);
2017-2-21(#10620870@0)